I have held on to a secret for many years and I am now free to unburden myself. My marriage was a sham! For many years I pretended it was fine. That's what I thought I was supposed to do. I struggled to be the wife I knew the Lord needed me to be. My husband is an alcoholic and I was afraid to talk about it.
I live in Texas – the buckle of the Bible belt, so they say. I am surrounded by those who, like me, grew up in the church. I assumed we shared similar ideas about love and marriage, but I assumed incorrectly.
When a spouse is verbally or emotionally abusive, is an addict, or even cheats – one is hard pressed to find anyone who supports reconciliation. If one stays with a spouse as described above, one immediately is perceived as a weak, old fashioned and out-of-date martyr who must suffer from some sort of codependency or emotional defect. To be fair, many of us do exhibit the tendency to be enabling or codependent when in this kind of situation. However, is the answer always to leave?
I write this in the midst of my own battle to save a sinking ship of a marriage. As I struggle through the fog of what others have to say, what the “experts” tell me (even those trusted Christian experts), I find that my greatest advice comes only from the Word of God. Join me as I examine what the Bible has to say in these situations, and we discover how to Save the Titanic.
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- Coping with anxiety/depression
- I have a FEAR problem
- My husband had an affair. Now what?
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- When your husband isn't the spiritual leader of your home
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